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Justice Completed
September 23, 2011
What does a victim require to feel that justice is served? That is a question that everyone feels they have the answer too. But just like offenders, victims are a homogeneous group and have different needs when it comes to the completion of justice. The completion of justice is what it takes to allow the […]
Keep readingCommon Responses
May 3, 2011
One of the most common responses that a person who sexually abuses a child makes is to lessen his culpability or lessen the impact or seriousness of what he has done. I have read about this tendency several times but I never thought about it as it might apply to me. But, recently, I have […]
Keep readingAre Sex Crimes Down? NO!
May 2, 2011
“Sex crimes are down from 2008.” This is a rallying cry that politicians have used to justify their existence and support of stringent sex-offender laws. However, this is misleading or even untrue. For while a certain class of sex crime is down, Stephen Lightfoot, Executive Director of Justice for Children, a national organization that advocates […]
Keep readingTriggers
April 1, 2011
A trigger is a clinical term used by medical and mental health professionals to indicate an event, either biological or behavioral, that predicates or precedes an event. In the case of sexual abuse, triggers are probably always behavioral. In my case, the triggers were pretty obvious now that I know what to look for. In […]
Keep readingEducation
March 31, 2011
Our next topic of discussion is probably, to me, the most important. Education. We (both parents, children, and those who have or might commit these offenses) all need to educate ourselves. Understanding the problem and why someone that you care about might commit one of these offenses, or knowing how to educate your children, or […]
Keep readingProtecting our children
March 30, 2011
As part of protecting our children, we are always analyzing those whom we come into contact with and then determining whether or not they are safe for them. The obvious ones are easy. But the majority of people who commit sex offenses against children are family or close friends (80%+). Because, let’s face it, who […]
Keep readingUnderstanding sex crimes
March 29, 2011
The first thing you should do in order to understand sex crimes is to throw out everything you have ever read about them in your favorite novel. Because, while there is no doubt that these crimes need to be stopped, most sex offenders are not some kind of sociopathic monsters who want to rape and […]
Keep reading“My daddy hurt me”
March 28, 2011
I’ve heard an adage that prisons are full of people claiming to be innocent. I, however, deserve to be here. There is no question in my mind about that what I did was not violent in and of itself; but, even so, it was of such an insidious nature that we must all be fearful […]
Keep readingGreetings and salutations from behind the Iron Curtain
March 27, 2011
So, I sit here and wonder what you may want to hear first. My childhood – well, it was cliché for my current circumstances – the whole abuse and more abuse. Despite that though, I can’t say that I had a bad childhood. The only thing I can say is that my childhood was a […]
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